Bisexual Ako

I’ve been noticing that it’s a fad to say “I’m Bi” thanks to the apparently high “market value” of gays who act like straight men. Yes, the terms “bi” and “straight-acting” are being used interchangeably nowadays — and since it seems that a lot more gays are attracted to the “straight-acting” type, more gays tag themselves as “bi.”
There are two issues here:
(a) Self-concept — those claiming to be straight-acting should take a good look at themselves, and perhaps get honest opinion from others — there is nothing wrong with being effeminate, nothing so great about being straight-acting. We just need to be honest and comfortable with who we are, and how we really, naturally act.
(b) Semantics — simply put, bisexual is not equal to straight-acting.
Bisexual means you swing both ways, or you dig both men and women. Straight-acting refers to the outward behavior of a person — if most people who hear you talk and see you move mistake you as a straight guy most of the time then maybe you qualify to be called straight-acting. Furthermore, there are bisexuals who are as effeminate as fairies can be. There are straight-acting gay men who are exclusively homosexual.
My opinion is that there is much more to a person than one’s outward behavior. Eh ano kung effem? Eh ano kung straight-acting? While I totally respect your preferences in selecting a partner (as I have mine as well), I encourage you to try to look for more than just the outward behavior in evaluating people. Di ba nga, sabi sa Little Prince, “It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.”
For me, the lesson from all these is — more than just the semantics and labels — embracing who you really are, being comfortable with the truth, and celebrating the beauty of it all (yours and others), minus the prejudices and judgement.
I, thank you! World Peace! Hehehe.

MY RESIGNATION

I am hereby officially tendering
my resignation as an adult.

I have
decided I would like to accept the
responsibilities of an 8 year-old again.

I want to go to McDonald's and think
that it's a four star restaurant.

I want to sail sticks across a fresh mud
puddle and make a sidewalk with rocks.
I want to think are better than
money because you can eat them.

I want to lie under a big tree with my friends on
a hot summer's day and watch the clouds as it transform
into dragons, dolphins and other sort of shapes.

I want to return to a time when life was
simple; when all you knew were COLORS,
MULTIPLICATION TABLES, and NURSERY RHYMES,
but that didn't bother you,
because you didn't know what you
didn't know and you didn't care.

All you knew was to be HAPPY because you
were blissfully unaware of all the things that
should make you worried or upset.

I want to think the world is FAIR.
That everyone is HONEST and GOOD.

I want to believe that anything is
POSSIBLE.

I want to be OBLIVIOUS
to the COMPLEXITIES of life and be
overly excited by the little things again.

I want to live SIMPLE again.

I don't want my day to consist of
COMPUTER CRASHES, MOUNTAINS OF PAPERWORKS,
DEPRESSING NEWS, HOW TO SURVIVE MORE DAYS
WITHOUT MONEY UNTIL ITS PAYDAY, BILLS, GOSSIP,ILLNESS,
and LOSS OF LOVED ONES.

I want to believe in the power of
SMILES, HUGS, a KIND WORD, TRUTH,
JUSTICE, PEACE, DREAMS, the IMAGINATION,
MANKIND, and ANGELS.

So . . . here's everything i have
as a grown up. I am giving all up
the luxuries I have.

I am officially
resigning from ADULTHOOD.

And if you want to discuss this
further, you'll have to catch me
first, cause........

......"Tag! You're it."

The Golden Gift

The story goes that some time ago a man punished his five-year-old daughter for wasting a roll of expensive gold wrapping paper. Money was tight and he became even more upset when the child then used the gold paper to decorate a box to put under the Christmas tree.

Nevertheless, the little girl brought the gift box to her father the next morning and said, "This is for you, Daddy."

The father was embarrassed by his earlier overreaction, but his anger flared again when he found the box was empty. He spoke to her in a harsh manner, "Don't you know, young lady, when you give someone a present there's supposed to be something inside the package?"

The little girl looked up at him with tears in her eyes and said, "Oh, Daddy, it's not empty. I blew kisses into it until it was full."

The father was crushed. He fell on his knees and put his arms around his little girl, and he begged her to forgive him for his unnecessary anger.

* * * * *

Only a short time later, an accident took the life of that same little girl.

It is told that the father kept that gold-wrapped box by his bed for all the years of his life. And whenever he was discouraged or faced difficult problems, he would open this special box and take out an imaginary kiss and remember the love of the child who had put it there.

In a very real sense, each of us as human beings have been given a golden box filled with unconditional love and kisses from our family, our children, our friends and God.

There is no more precious possession that anyone could hold.
How often we allow ourselves to forget the things that are really important in life! If only we could live each day with the awareness of how special, and how fleeting, each moment is ---- then we would live in the moment and appreciate the love we have today.

Four In The Morning

Gwen Stefani - 4 In The Morning
Uploaded by Wonderful-Life

Waking up to find another day
The moon got lost again last night
But now the sun has finally had its say
I guess I feel alright

But it hurts when I think
When I let it sink in
It's all over me
I'm lying here in the dark
I'm watching you sleep, it hurts a lot
& all I know is
You've got to give me everything
Nothing less cause
You know I give you all of me

[CHORUS]
I give you everything that I am
I'm handin' in everything that I've got
Cause I wanna have a really true love
Don't ever wanna have to go & give you up
Stay up till Four In The Morning & the tears are pouring
& I want to make it worth the fight
What have we been doing for all this time?
Baby if we're gonna do it, come on do it right

All I wanted was to know I'm safe
Don't want to lose the love I've found
Remember when you said that you would change
Don't let me down
It's not fair how you are
I can't be complete, can you give me more?
& all I know is
You got to give me everything
& nothing less cause
You know I give you all of me

[CHORUS]
I give you everything that I am
I'm handin' in everything that I've got
Cause I wanna have a really true love
Don't ever wanna have to go & give you up
Stay up till Four In The Morning & the tears are pouring
& I want to make it worth the fight
What have we been doing for all this time?
Baby if we're gonna do it, come on do it right

Oh please, you know what I need
Save all your love up for me
We can't escape the love
Give me everything that you have

& all I know is
You got to give me everything
& nothing less cause
You know I give you all of me

[CHORUS]
I give you everything that I am
I'm handin' in everything that I've got
Cause I wanna have a really true love
Don't ever wanna have to go & give you up
Stay up till Four In The Morning & the tears are pouring
& I want to make it worth the fight
What have we been doing for all this time?
Baby if we're gonna do it, come on do it right

(Give you everything)
(Give you all of me)

Warrior of the Light

Every Warrior of the Light has felt afraid of going into battle.
Every Warrior of the Light has, at some time in the past, lied or betrayed someone.
Every Warrior of the Light has trodden a path that was not his.
Every Warrior of the Light has suffered for the most trivial of reasons.
Every Warrior of the Light has, at least once, believed he was not a Warrior of the Light.
Every Warrior of the Light has failed in his spiritual duties.
Every Warrior of the Light has said 'yes' when he wanted to say 'no.'
Every Warrior of the Light has hurt someone he loved.
That is why he is a Warrior of the Light, because he has been through all this and yet has never lost hope of being better than he is.

~ Paulo Coelho

Jealousy

I want to be poly, but I'm not sure I can handle knowing someone I love... loves someone else.
Jealousy is a vicious and caustic emotion in a relationship which indicates a lack of trust. Many people from "one on one" relationships define jealousy as a level of suspicion of unfaithfulness. "Unfaithfulness" is a relative term. To one couple, dancing with another would be unfaithful. To others, flirting would be unfaithful. And to still others, even the THOUGHT of another would constitute unfaithfulness.

Those of an open relationship may have a different set of "faithfulness" requirements:

* You are allowed to love, but not have sexual relations.
* You are allowed to have sexual relations, but not love.
* You are allowed to do as you please once I have met (or approved) the other person.
* You can do as you wish as long as it is only with a member of a certain gender.
* You may do whatever you wish, I love you and I would not hold you to rules.

There is a thick black line between the world of swinging and the world of polyamory, but yet so many people blur those lines quite often. That is why the above was stated as "open relationships". I also used the word "allowed" because I thought it played more to the "jealous" mentality. But, the thoughts on jealousy remain the same. If the "rules" (read:understandings) of what is "cheating" are understood and honest communication is present then jealousy should not be a factor because all involved will understand that the others are falling well within the lines of faithfulness. The open-ness actually allows for much less need to think about "cheating".

Aside from "faithfulness", the word jealousy also bears much in common with "envy". And, that may prove to be a greater issue than a need to suspect cheating. With multiple partners, comes limited time with each. This could cause one to envy the time being spent with another. But, again, if there are open lines of communication, all parties involved will hear and appreciate the needs of one who is feeling "left out". Talking things over and getting them out in the open solves most issues of time. There are times when even as a single person we find we don't have time to breathe... but considering multiple relationships with varying dynamics can be exhausting just to think about.

But, if you find yourself in open relationship(s) you will find how to communicate and how to manage your time and if you truly love and trust and communicate with your partner(s), you may just find that jealousy no longer makes sense.

Fallacies of BiSexuality

Most people understand the concepts of Heterosexual and HomoSexual and while gay bashers still run rampant, at least the world at large has figured out that homosexuals do exist and what it means to be homosexual. Then comes this whole other concept of BiSexuality and that has gays, lesbian and straight folk all scratching their heads. And with all matters of ignorance, we find erroneous beliefs.

This article speaks in braod sweeping gestures, but hopefully it grabs most of the larger fallacies about BiSexuality and dispels the myths for you. Send this link to any of your friends who don't quite understand you and tell you that you just "need to decide" already.

Bisexuals have to be attracted to both men and women equally.

~ Preference is exactly that... preference. A straight male could like both blondes and redheads, but it doesn't mean he has to like them both with the same intensity at any one given moment.

Inherent in their mulitple preference, BiSexualilty leads to promiscuity, making BiSexuals unable to commit to a monogamous relationship.

~ Again we will use the straight male. It could in fact find blondes and redheads perfectly equally attractive. That does not mean that if he happens to get into a relationship with a blonde that he will be unfathful in order to get this lust for redheads out of his system. And a step further brings us to the fact that he might as well be unfaithful with other blondes as well since that is one of his preferences and since he can't keep his pants up, there is no reason for the lack of faithfulness to stop there. And then he sees a cute Asian woman, she's not blonde or redheaded, but she is female and he does have a preference for woman, so he is probably promiscuious and chasing multiple woman at once.

BiSexuals can choose to be straight.

~ Yes, and that straight male in the prior two fallacies can choose to be gay and gays and lesbians can choose to be straight. Why not? BiSexuals do not choose their sexuality any more than the rest of us. They are born with it and can recount the childhood stories of being attracted to Stars on the Television of both genders, the same as everyone else was attracted to one or the other. And a BiSexual in a relationship with someone of the opposite gender does not mean that she has "straightened out" it just means, she is in love and that person happens to be of that gender. She is still attracted to people of the same gender, but we fall in love with people, not genders.

Bisexual people are just denying that they are gay

~ Denying it would be to remain in the closet and in an unhappy relationship with one gender or the other and never take the time to explore both sides of their sexuality. A BiSexual in a same sex relationship is still a BiSexual, even though the relationship may be gay and a BiSexual in a "straight" relationship is still a BiSexual who happens to be in a relationship with a person of the opposite gender. Dating a lesbian does not make you a lesbian if you are still attracted to men.

by Eric L Snyder 06.09.06